“Every morning, Every evening, Ain’t we got fun!
Not much money, Oh but honey, Ain’t We Got Fun!”
From Song “AIN’T WE GOT FUN” ~Richard Whiting / Gus Kahn / Raymond S. Egan-1921
On Valentine’s Day, if things look dour, I have two choices – and so do you!
I can look at those two lonely bills in my wallet and feel badly or I can celebrate the fact that I have someone who is still willing to share my life!
I received an email from a male friend that felt very badly because he had been out of work for almost a year and he has no money to buy his wife a Valentine’s Day gift. His heart aches because he wants to give his wife one of those little blue boxes from Tiffany’s with a lovely diamond necklace in it. My heart goes out to him because I know how that feels; I too have been in that place. But I learned something along the way.
Many women say YES, diamonds, nice restaurants, trips to Paris and a new dress are fun, but they are not the most important thing.
Don’t believe me? Two surveys about Valentine’s Day were done recently, one by Women’s Health Magazine and the other was an on the street interview broadcast on ABC News. Women and men were asked about the importance about Valentine’s Day. The results of these and studies done in the past show the same thing.
It is the QUALITY of THOUGHT that counts!
When women were asked about what was important to them, their answers are not really surprising. Women love to be loved, appreciated, remembered, honored and cherished and guess what, so do men!
For women, Valentine’s Day: 68% say plan it together, 79% say having a date on Valentine’s didn’t matter, 85% say receiving a gift is not important and almost 50% felt that if there is a gift, it should be $25 or less. 54% of women surveyed felt that the real importance of Valentine’s Day is that it is a good day to show that I care about you (their partner).
Men feel that they should plan V-Day (56%) and that they are supposed to pay for it (78%). 85% of men don’t care if they receive a gift but they feel they should spend $25-$50 on their partner. But 62% felt that this was an artificial day created by greeting card companies.
A man’s motivation is his woman. He likes to delightfully surprise her, gift her and express his love in the best way he knows how. What he wants in return is a little extra kindness, recognition for his efforts and to bond deeper, (erase doubt in her mind).
He does this best when he pays attention to what his partner really wants, picking or creating gifts that are meaningful to her and connect with what she cares about. So whether he buys a gift or writes a passionate poem, when it connects with what matters to her, she knows that she has been heard.
And that is all any of us want. You can invest your money in this!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Remember that you also have 364 more chances you to let your partner know they matter.
To Love, Wealth and Happiness in all aspects of your life,
Jimm Hughey, M.S.
Master Wealth Acceleration Coach
Love and Money Guru
Facilitating effective loving with financial freedom
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